There are many reasons why a marriage falls apart. For some, it's due to incompatibility & for others, a 3rd party in the relationship. But, it often baffles me that 2 people who have been so in love at a point in time where they could pledge their undying love to each other in the presence of so many others could no longer find it in themselves to love each other that way again.
I do strongly believe then that the love shared between a couple who were truly in love in the 1st place is still there, deep within, if only they could search more thoroughly and find ways to recapture the feelings during the initial honeymoon phase. My theory, I suppose is proved right for research has found that marriages fail not because of an increasing number of conflict between partners but because they have lost the positive feelings they had for each other.
And this is all due to the fact that we often take for granted those closest and dearest to us. We do not listen, remember or to love our partners in small ways.
We forget to listen to what our partners are really saying & instead, wait for that pause in the conversation to tell them how bad or wonderful our day was. If they love us, shouldn't they be concerned and interested in what happened to us that day?
We conveniently forget all the nice things our partners did for us. As the years pass, we expect our partners to do those nice things because wasn't that part of the terms and conditions that was agreed to when we signed on the dotted line? We forget why we were together in the first place.
We forget to love in small ways. To say thank you, to be truly present and enjoy each other's company (instead of sending emails, playing games on the iphone), to laugh together & to fall in love again & again & again...
